Since we just had Father’s Day, I decided to make out a list of some things I’ve learned from my dad to share with you. Although he has his flaws, I’ve learned a lot from him throughout my life and I continue to learn from him even into my adult life. So, without further ado, here is a list of
5 of the things that I’ve learned from my dad that have had a big impact on my life:
- What’s the rush?
It seems that there are so many pressures on people in their mid to late 20s to settle down and have a family. Ever since I graduated college I’ve felt the pressure to get a good job, find a good man, and have a family. Whenever I get down and out about the fact that I am going back to school to pursue a completely different career, he always reminds me that I am younger than he was when he decided to settle down with a good job. People say 30 is the new 20, but let’s be honest, you no longer feel 20 at 30. There just isn’t AS MUCH pressure for a swift timeline to marriage and kids these days. He waited, and although I know that he’s counting down the days for some man to come ask for my hand in marriage, he’s glad he waited.
- If you put your mind to it, you can do anything.
He always uses his Vietnam and fire college stories when he tries to motivate Jenn or me to be good at something. I’ll admit, I got lost in the millennial mindset for a hot minute after college when I was trying to find a job, but he helped me snap out of it. He busted his butt as an engineer in the Army in Vietnam and when he was in fire college, he was the top in his class, not because he was “smart” but because he applied himself and put his mind to do something that he wanted to do. It may have taken me 27 years to realize being “smart” was more than just studying, but he has been trying to show me that and I finally realized it.
- How to be selfless.
I don’t even know if he realizes that he is selfless, but ever since I was little, I’ve noticed it. He was always helping out old neighbors, people at church, me, Jenn, my mom, our extended family, etc. and it was like he enjoyed doing it. He was a firefighter/paramedic and all of his best stories were from when he was riding rescue. I know he saw some rough things and had to deal with many sad and difficult situations, but he never brought it home with him, and if he did, I never saw it. I just saw the joy he got out of his job. I never saw him complain about helping anyone either. I know he’s not perfect, but I hope that I can be even half as selfless in my life as he has been.
- Sometimes, it’s not worth the argument.
I’ll admit, I’ve seen both of my parents blow their stacks. I’ve blown mine. But for the most part, my dad has always been level headed. He never argued with strangers and he doesn’t get worked up about things that bother him. He’s taught me that walking away before a situation escalates is better than responding and adding fuel to the fire. My dad has always shown respect to everyone, which is one reason he doesn’t get into arguments with people. I am reluctant to admit this, but he’s definitely worked hard over the years to help Jenn and I keep our cool.
- To not settle for any man unless he possesses the good qualities of my dad.
I’ve heard it said that you “marry your dad”. Obviously not your actual dad, but someone similar who possesses many of the same qualities that your dad has. I’ve been in the dating game and I have yet to find someone who measures up to my dad (sorry guys). Obviously, he’s got what I call his “isms” and he drives me nuts lots of times, but he has qualities that every good guy should have and it’s hard to find that these days. I’ve been so fortunate to have him as my dad and although he can still embarrass me sometimes, I love him, and he wouldn’t be such a great dad if he didn’t embarrass me.
My dad is far from perfect, but he’s been an amazing role model in my life. I could keep going with the list of things I’ve learned from him, but I’ll save that for a later date. I am so thankful for him and I would not be where I am today without him.